what's in this email:

sometimes FREE STUFF can be a pain in the ass

ree stuff is harder than paid for stuff

Free stuff comes with strings

I thought it should be thought about

sure you can say I'm overthinking it. But if you do, I will say you are underthinkig it.

what you get for free, you treat cheap

Greetings Thinkers,

You may remember the folks I recently mentioned that want to give me stuff and I appreciate it. Jim with the wizard +, Karen with the trunks + , and others - there was a list.

You may understand me accurately as someone who likes "free stuff" and "trash". That I love to be the phone call - "we don't know what to do with this, do you want it?"

I dumpster dive and free cycle and upcycle and salvage and collect and save.
This is my jam, this is the business I am in, this is my life (at least part of it!).

And sometimes FREE STUFF can be a pain in the ass.

Maybe everything I write hereafter is only true because I have "money stuff" - weird experiences and insecurities and perceptions about money. Some personal growth circles call this "limiting beliefs about money" or "scarcity mindset", or I'll thrown in "over thinking", among other made up diagnoses.

Maybe none of it is weird and it's all very real.

The gist - I usually find that free stuff is harder than paid for stuff.

Free stuff comes with strings no matter how many times they say it doesn't.

Free stuff also doesn't always and inherently really mean free, and folks often fail to track this.
The gas to get there isn't FREE. The time to do it isn't FREE. The energy exchanged is not nothing (is not free).

Story: we've been offered a playground for free,
of course we should take it

I once was on an HOA and someone offered a FREE PLAYGROUND to the board for the community. It was a non vote to everyone but me. Everyone thought it should of course be accepted, why not?! There couldn't possibly be anything wrong with receiving a free playground. It's for the kids for gosh sake!

But I didn't see it that way. Call me an over thinker or paranoid or a negative Nancy. I thought it should be thought about.

I saw an area that would need managaged, landscaped, cared for and looked after. A space and now equipment that someone would have to be responsible to maintain and keep safe. Who's going to do that? Will the mowing of that grass be free? When something breaks and a kid gets hurt because it wasn't properly insured, would that be free? What about general maintenance and clean up? Something as simple as a trash can, who's emptying that every week?

I didn't veto the free playground for the kids, which is how it transferred down the line like the old game of telephone, but I did have questions and it wasn't automatic for me.

The same is true in my life of liking and wanting "free stuff" whether it's offered to me or it's from the dumpster. It's all very complicated. It's not automatic. I have questions.

Things like:

What do you want for this? A lot depends on how they answer this question.

Sometimes there's some hesitation in the answer .. ~" well nothing or not much, unless..." . Complications, strings, questions.

Sometimes there's no hesitation and you can feel it. "Really nothing." If there's an added "you're helping me by getting it off my hands" those are my favorite, if I believe that. Sure someone can say that and not really mean it, but if they mean it and I can feel the believe of it, those are the best line ups.

Sometimes people want you to appreciate it. What if they find out you didn't appreciate it that way they wanted you to. You painted an antique thing that never should have been treated that way, or left it outside when it was something that should have been protected.

Sometimes they have ideas about what you should do with it. If it's given to you, can you sell it, or are you expected to keep it?

You might say - well once it's given to you, its yours and it's none of their business, or some such, but life rarely really goes that way. We do care and we do have opinions and attachments and expectations, known and under conscious that come up in weird unclear ways all the time. I can't be convinced otherwise. "Can't" , won't, don't see it.

The reason this topic is up today is because I'm getting free stuff and it has reminded me of the dynamics of it in the "bad" way. I have now been inconvenienced by this free stuff. Having to have multiple conversations about the stuff, multiple trips to get the stuff, more conversation about having the stuff delivered because it wouldn't all fit, and a few reschedules in there, never mind an added unclear "what do you want for it". "Oh whatever you think, we trust you, and if it's nothing that's fine."

I got to the point where I no longer wanted the stuff and I was ready to let it go. But I was already in it. Already had some of the stuff and more dynamics came up for me- I don't want them to think I am ungrateful or I have taken advantage of them in a bad way.

So many dynamics to consider and many more than I am including here in this thought stream today.
And yes you can say I'm overthinking it. But if you do, I will say you are underthinkig it.

I also have this belief

what you get for free, you treat cheap

or in other words - what you get for free, you don't value as much as what you pay for. Think about that. Sure there can be outliers, but typically and overall, I think we value what we pay for.

When I pay 600 dollars for something I certainly treat it differently than the free thing I get that I may be able to fix up to possibly sell for 600.

Do you see it? Have you ever experienced anything like it?
Did someone offer to do something for you for free and it didn't go well? You ended up feeling some way about it? Have you given something for free and later noticed you felt you resented them for some reason? What free exchanges have you had that went only SMOOTH? Sure there are simple ones, but can tell me they are rarely complicated? I'd like to hear from you folks! Maybe you're the ones without the "weird money stuff". Looking to be wrong.

I'm not saying free stuff exchanged is never good or uncomplicated. I have had those too, or at least relationships where it doesn't feel bad and it's all in the bucket. I am speaking to this side because this is the side I'm experiencing and thinking about today. If you stay here long enough, you're likely to read about the other side.

From yesterday, I put this header and didn't write it out: does "it wasn't meant to be" ever really make anything feel better?

And now I've gotten here and don't feel to.

this day, 5 years ago, I was doing a handstand practice thing. Perhaps I should bring that back.

Energy to you.

🔺

KG

standouts / other thoughts

"I say what I mean and I mean what I say."
​Adding - I strive to. Adding "I strive to" because rarely can anything we say or do be truly be evergreen. We change, the world changes. They say change is the only constant. So to say "I say what I mean and I mean what I say" could be understood as always. I did mean it as an absolute and I don't state absolutes lightly. And ultimately what I say today may not be what I feel next year or 3 from now. I've been doing this long enough to see a lot of that - that what I think and believe changes overtime. Every time I think I really figured something out, I can look back years later and see how I tweaked it, or stopped believing it, or it became less interesting important, and so on. So overall I always strive to say what I mean and mean what I say, and it can change, and I can contradict myself, and I can be wrong. But you can trust that whatever I said, I meant to mean it, so if you find a flaw, you're welcome to point to it.

I don't know the answers to all of that but right now, this is what it is.

currently (NOT) reading:

Books:

• Kitchen Things
• Let Them
• The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying
• Plato The Last Days of Socrates
• Forgotten Home Apothecary

word of the day

vaunted: highly or widely praised or boasted about

use it: what's something that you see as vaunted that shouldn't be?

quote to consider

"“The counterapproach to living in scarcity is not about abundance. In fact, I think abundance and scarcity are two sides of the same coin. The opposite of “never enough” isn’t abundance or “more than you could ever imagine.” The opposite of scarcity is enough, or what I call Wholeheartedness.”

~Brene Brown

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Index: references, keys, and definitions

What does any of this have to do with you?
You tell you.

SOC = Stream Of Consciousness

When to Which / When is it Which: a Kymology philosophy that every single thing has its equal and opposite true and good side. Every single thing is literal here.

Exhibit. When I say the word Exhibit it's my way of saying a post or a share. I exhibit my life by posts and publishings on social media and blog spaces. These are my Exhibits.
My life is my work, my work is my life. I Exhibit my work.
like to exhibit art in a gallery. Show, put on a wall for experience, interoperation, comment, and ultimately USE.

A Year of Inspiring, The Kymology Daily - what it is: daily emails about whatever I'm thinking about and writing out. Not quietly. Not maybe. Not sometimes. Not irregularly. Not in silence until it's done. Daily. A Year of Inspiration, the Kymology Daily Email is for and about getting my stuff written out and down. Catalogged and Exhibited. And practicing. Practicing regular exhibiting, and writing, writing, writing.

"It's been awhile since I've been called inspiring." Then be inspiring again.

Don't break commitments you make to yourself.

You never say "you're human" to a huge success.

Coordinating to get the thing done, is not not doing the thing.

How you arrange your details matters.

A list of words to remember and use "more":

• polymath
• sundries
• short shrift
• gimassive
• apricity
• remonstrate- to argue against something to change it, to present and urge reasons in opposition, expostulate

Everyone's nothing is different.
Everyone's everything is different too.

is it worth it, is it worth it, is it worth it - saying this to everything!

YES YOU CAN SHARE THIS​
Sometimes I get asked ~ "would you mind if I sent this to a friend. I think they should read this." My answer to this is ALWAYS YES. My perspective of my Work is that it is PUBLIC. Sure it might seem like I share personal stuff here sometimes and you're right, I do. And I Exhibit for the REASON OF potential. What it could do for someone, that someone could USE IT. So if you know a someone like that, please always feel free to share, pass it along, copy and paste it over whatever you think I best for what you want to do. Sure I'd prefer you didn't copy my words as your own or monetize this in a way I haven't figured out for myself, but beyond that, this is for the using however you see fit.

Things you could know about me:

I'm not a cherry picker of anything. I like to use things that exist rather than start from new or scratch. I am typically an ostrich about politics, news, current events, pop culture and media. I dislike under thought things like cliches and commonly said quotes and phrases. Don't tell me what to do, or say "how how are you?" or "I'm sorry for your loss" unless you want to annoy me or you really, really mean it. And know it can be hard to tell which it is, and I'm wrong not infrequently.

I have a tendency to make things every day things. This is where 30 Day Challenges come from!
​Challenges as a framework are what my body, mind, and soul gravitate toward. (That's the everydayness thing.)

Like yourself. Know yourself. Express that self.
Think about things. Don't feel like you have to dance in the rain to have a good life.
Don't have a plan. Stand for what matters. Read when you want to. Don't smile when people tell you to.
Don't have goal. Tend plants. Leave marks. Do what you say. Change YOUR world. And your mind!
Be a friend and a daughter and a partner and a sister and a dog mom.
In a world full of "accept who you are" messages, don't forget to be a "work on that" kind of person. Don't put kindness above truth. Try new things. Be honest. Live by ideals. Have some whimsy. What you do for money matters; strive to like what you do for money. (job) If you have a hobby you need a life. Use what attracts you and make what you want, matter!

Peepers are my favorite sound.

Triangle is my favorite shape.

54 is my number.

I never need to talk.

why I do what I do:

to "make you" THINK. I don't mind if your experience and perception of me "makes you" be more mindful, use your brain more, "think too much" or consider something more carefully, or differently, or moves you to be (more) thoughtful or intentional or authentic. All of these things are reasons why I do what I do and why I am the way I am. I consider these things good things, so if I'm the catalyst for anything like this, so far I think that's a good thing.

I mean my hugs

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SOC life - what you allow in, turns into what you spend your time on. Can you see it?

Resources

A link list for quick and easy clicking.

• Exhibit: the: "how do you decide what you do and don't express" doozy
• ​Kymology Website
• ​Substack​
• ​Kymology on Youtube​

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KG

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